How To Win Friends and Influence People

Rule 1:Become genuinely interested in other people
" Do this and you will be welcome anywhere."
"You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people then you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."
"Ask questions to other people, questions that they would enjoy answering."
Reflection: This rule is a great rule because a person does not want to get to know us they want other people to get to know them before they get to know us. They want us to ask questions that are friendly yet not to friendly to the point were it gets weird. It is the greatest thing because if we start to get to know the other person then that person will want to get to know us better to have a better and more interesting chat. The greatest thing about this is that by following this rule we can create a better conversation that is two-sided instead of the regular one-sided conversations that we would normally have.
Quote:"If you want others to like you and develop real friendships keep this principle in mind BECOME GENUINELY INTERESTED IN OTHER PEOPLE."

Rule 2: Smile

"Actions speak louder than words,and a smile says, "I like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."

"You don't feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."

"It creates happiness in the home, fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign of friends."

Reflection: Smiling is a great way for people to start liking you because people start thinking wow this person might have a great life and if I am friends with them I might be able to have a happy life as well. It is also the best way to express yourself without having to communicate verbally because everybody knows what a smile means. It is also the best way to express yourself because the world knows that when a person similes that the person is having a great life. It is also a great way to uplift a persons mood because some people may need to see someone smiling to start feeling happy them self. It is also a good way to uplift a group of peoples spirit in case a traumatic accident has just occurred.

Quote: "Smile and forgive it's the only way to live."

Rule 3: Remember Names

"A man's name is to him as the sweetest and most important sound in any language.

"If you don't remember names, you are heading for trouble."

Reflection: This is a must to remember because if you don't remember the name of your friends or people you might want to befriend they could get mad at you and not want to stay friends with you. It is also a important thing to keep in mind because that way you can remember the person you are talking to and remember that persons likes. This is a good thing to keep in mind because people hate it when you don't remember there name. It is a good thing to remember so you don't make in error in the future and possibly ruin a beautiful friendship.

How to remember names:

Repeat the name.

Associate the name with something simple.

Tell the person that you forgot there name.

Spell out the name.

Keep records.

Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

"If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener."

"Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems."

Reflection: Being a good listener is a important thing because that way you can learn more about the person you are trying to befriend. It is also a important lesson to remember because you can you is it anytime in your life to try and learn new things about the people around you. It is a good thing to keep in mind that a person will talk to you more of you are interested in them more than yourself. It is also a good thing to keep in mind to always pay close attention to certain detail like there birthday, there kids name(if the have any), and other useful information. The best thing you can do is show that you are paying attention by asking questions frequently and also adding in your own opinion to certain matters. You can also keep eye contact at all time to show that your interest is focused sole on them and not anything else.

  

5 steps for active listening

1.Stay focused.

2.Really listen .

3.Allow for periods of silence.

4.Repeat the other persons words or paraphrase them. 

5.Understand the emotions behind the words.

Rule 5 Talk in terms of the other man's interest.

"The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures the most."

Reflection: This is important to keep in mind because a man will be more willing to talk to someone if you want to talk about there interest and not about your own. It is also  important to keep in mind that a man will be more calm and relaxed if you are talking about his interest more than your own. It is a good way to learn what the man your are talking about has in interest and hopefully some of his interest are similar to your own. You could also learn a lot about a man from his interest especially about how the act around other people and how his personality is. It can also help if you ask questions about his interest to see if you want to add his interest into your own interest.

Rule 6: Make the other person feel important-and do it sincerely.

"The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature.

"Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."

Reflection: This is important because if one feel important then they start to feel more confident in themselves. This in turn help us to learn more things from the person who feels important. We should act sincere because there are some people who will be able to tell if we are not being sincere which could ruin are afternoon with that person hounding us as to why we acted as if we cared. It is best if we show sincerity to other people because we don't know how hard there life has been. 

Ways to Make feel people important:

1. Compliment them.
2. Make there job seem better than you own job.
3. Make them feel like they are the center of attention.
4. Make them feel there is no one greater than them.
5. Give them reasons why they are the best.
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Reflection: All of these pieces of advice are great ways of making friends because they show us how to make the people believe that we are interested in them. All of the advice that was given to us are the best pieces of advice that we can get because it will help us all through out are life and when we are looking for a job.

The Six Attitudes of High Achievers

The Six Attitudes of High Achievers

1. Make no small plans

   Reflection: This is a attitude of high achievers because why aim small when you want something big. It is also good because yes while you aim small you may achieve it but if you aim big and achieve you feel a whole lot better than achieving something small. A high achiever would not aim small because in what way would that help them it will just waste more time if they aim big they can do what they want at a faster pace.

Quote: " Make no little plans; They have no magic to stir men's blood and probably themselves will not be realized. Make big plans; Aim high in hope and work." 

3. Are willing to prepare: This is one of the attitudes of high achievers because it is good to have everything ready before the due date is near. It is also good because they can use the time one would normally use to prepare for something more productive and or do another class homework. They can have all there work done before anyone else and use the extra time to do something more useful or do an extra activity.

Quote:" Expect the best, prepare for the worst."

4. Are willing to risk failure

Reflection: This is a attitude of high achievers because if they can not risk failing then they can never be successful in life without this attribute. This is something good because with this they learn from there mistakes and can improve on themselves. It is the best thing because they will learn to be better at things that they may not have been good at. They can learn to be the best at many things because they are willing to fail to learn form those failures.

Quote: "If you want to be great, you have to be willing to risk failure. Risk it not just in some things but in all things, big or small." 

-Todd Schavrien 

5. Are teachable

Reflection: It is a attribute of high achievers because they have to be able to learn from people who know what there talking about. It is also good because it shows that they are willing to learn new things about what they want to specialize in. It is also a great thing because it show that they are willing to learn and wont wast time messing around not doing anything.

Quote: "We are looking for people who can become role models and leaders. We want people who are teachable."

-Marcus Eng. 

6. Have Heart

Reflection: This is a attribute of high achievers because if they put there heart into anything they will succeed. It is also a good thing to have because that way people will know that if you put your heart into something they know that something will come out great. It is also a bad thing because that attribute might come back and ruin you because people that do not like you can use that to there advantage and start destroying everything that is important to you ruining you mentally.

Quote:" Having a big heart is a great thing but it can also be your greatest weakness that some will abuse."

Reflection: All these attitudes are something all high achievers have in common because they help them be a better person in and out of school. It is also a good thing because with these attitudes people can become a better person and someone who other people can trust. But this attitudes also come with a risk that evil people in the world would love to manipulate. All these attitudes come with many positive outcomes but they also come with a lot of negative outcomes that can mentally and physically harm a person. But it many case the negative outcomes can be out weighed by the positive outcomes.

Way To Be

9 Ways to be Happy and Make Something of your Life  

Gordon B. Hinckley

1. Be Grateful 

Reflection: This new way to achieve happiness is talking about that we should always say thanks to the people in our life who do things for us. We should never be disrespectful to the people who sometimes sacrifice themselves so we can be happy. It also talks about how we should never take things for granted because we don't know when it will be taking away from us. I can't believe how many things us people take for granted in this life but I know that there are a lot of things I take for granted and thinking about makes me upset and sad because I don't know what will be the last day I ever see them so it also shows us to live every moment like it could be the last. Because in this world that we live in we just don't know when it will be are last.

Quote: " Never let the things you want make you forget the things you have."

2. Be Smart 

Reflection: We need to be smart so were are not taking advantage of. It  is also good to be smart because if we are smart we have a better chance at understanding something that other people are still not able to understand. Being smart not only means be book smart but also street smart which means we know how the people on the streets act and the places to avoid. They also say that the difference between a smart person and a dumb person the smart person will see there mistake and change because of it and a dumb person will always make that same mistake.

Quote: "It's not that I'm so smart, it's just that I stay with problems longer."

3. Be Involved in Good Works

Reflection: We need to be involved in good works so we can gain a sense of accomplishment. Also to show that we are willing to waste are time doing something that may not even matter in the long run. When we could have done something that could  of made our own future better. But it does help by us learning how to work responsible and at a better rate.

Quote: " I will help others and build the kingdom through righteous service." 

4. Be Clean 

Reflection: Being clean is a good thing because no one want to be walking around all filthy and sticky and other things. It is also nice because a employer will want someone who can represent the company in a good way and create a good image that people can see and just make them want to go and buy whatever the company is selling. It is also nice to be clean because others will think of you in a better light.

Quote: "Better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window which you must see the world."

-George Bernard Shaw

5. Be True

Reflection: Being true is a good thing because you won't be lying to yourself and the important people in your life. It is also a good trait so other people will have a better time believing in the stories you tell. It is good so we know that we have not told anyone a lie. It is good so that you can also believe in yourself and be true to who you are not the person you want to be. Being true is also a good quality because then people will believe you not just put you down for the lies you have made.

Quote: " Love doesn't need to be perfect; it just needs to be true."

-Unknown

6. Be Positive

Reflection: Being positive is a good thing because we our mood can change the way we live are life. A person with a positive attitude can go through out the day without stopping and will probably make others around them happy. It is also good to be positive because being negative will just put you down and make you feel unhappy and depressed. Having a positive attitude is a great thing because then you wont have to see the reality of the world and how dark it really is because that is what the world is it is a dark, disgusting, lustful, hating, and underhanded place.

Quote: "Think positive, Be positive and positive things will happen."

7. Be Humble

Reflection: Being humble is a good thing because with being humble people while act the same way. Being humble is also a good thing because it will show how to treat other people. It is also good because with it other people will want to hire or be around you a lot more because of how you act. I will try being more humble in my life by showing other people a good treatment. 

Quote: "Nothing in life is permanent, Be Humble."

8. Be Still 
Reflection: Be still is to know that I am God. Or so says Psalm 46:10. What I believe this means to be patient which is a good things because we this skill we can wait on good things to happen. This is also good because we can wait things out and not be inpatient. But this could also be bad because what if you wait to long and something incredibly bad happens to you because of it. This could also be bad because you could become a pacifist which is both good and bad it is bad because you could get to a point where people just trample over you. It could be good to be a pacifist because of the anti violence approach.

Quote: " Be still is to know that I am God" Psalm 46:10

9. Be Prayerful

  
Final Reflection: The 9 ways to be happy was a great source of writing because it helped me think about life a lot more than I usually do. It also helped me express some of my deeper thought on paper rather than out loud. This post was great because it also caused me to think more about the reflection than I would have in the past. It also caused me to reflect on my life something that I have not done in a long time. Some of the ways I can commit to do the 9 ways are to be positive about how life is and to stop thinking negative thoughts.

 

Personal Development Attribute : Commitment

Commitment

Commitment: The state or quality of being dedicated to a cause, activity, etc.

Quote: " There's a difference between interest and commitment. When you are interested in doing something you do it only when its convenient. When you're committed to something you accept no excuses; only results."

Reflection: This quote is try to say that the biggest difference between interest and commitment. Is when you are interested in something only because you can gain something from it. When you are committed to a cause you only want results not anything else.

Personal Development Quote

Personal Development Quote

"The key to freedom is obedience.The more obedient we are,the more freedom we have."  -Boyd K. Packer 

An attribute in this quote is obedience.

Reflection: I disagree with this quote and attribute because it is just a very wrong way to think. It is wrong because if we all think this way the governments can just do whatever the hell they want to there people. They will most likely try to get rid of all the laws that help the 99% and start creating laws that will help the 1% which is what we don't need. The attribute is also wrong because if we are obedient it is like we are just animals that the government can control and make do whatever they want. This world does not need more people like that this world need people who are willing to do the right thing to make this world a better place we do not need people who will follow every word there government says when we all know that what they say is a lie. If people who truly believe in this quote exist then they are letting people who literally kill there own people win. We need people who are willing to put there life for a greater cause not people who will let other rule there every waking moment. This quote does not relate to our life planning goals because our goal are things we want to do and if we are obedient little puppies we can never complete are life planning goals.

  

Personal Development Attribute: A Smile

A Smile 

A smile is a good attribute because it can give off a friendly attitude. It also shows to people that you are not shy around others and that you can interact well with others without being to withdrawn. 

" A smile can mean a thousand words but it can also hide a thousand problems." Hannah Jane Carpiso 

Reflection: This quote is saying that while a smile can be a very good thing because it can show how we feel around others it can also be a bad thing because it can also hide a lot of problems we don't want other people to know about. An example can be say a girl who just always smiles can be facing life threatening problems at home because of depression or an abusive home where she has to take care of herself.

  

Personal Development Attribute: Responsible

Responsible 

Responsible: Having an obligation to do something, or having control over or care for someone, as part of one's job or role. Being the primary cause of something and so able to be blamed or credited for it.

Reflection: This is an attribute every person in the world should have because it makes us better. It makes us better because we learn to care for all the things we have of importance it also shows to always be early to care for a person we may or may not know. An example would be caring for the elderly what if you are not responsible enough and they end up dying because you were careless. 

September 11,2001

911 Memorial

September 11, 2001 was a tragic day for the United States because on this day the Twin Towers in New York were targeted by terrorist. There were 4 planes that targeted key locations in American two went to The World Trade Center and hit the Twin Towers the third plane went and hit the pentagon in Washington D.C. and the final airplane was planing on hitting Camp David where the President stays at during holidays. My first memory of the attacks was when I was in school and the teachers told what happened there. At that time I did not know the importance of this event but after the years passed I learned it significance.

Reflection: My thought on this subject are that it was one of the worst things that has happened on American soil. I feel that we needed this as a wake up call so we won't always feel safe in our home which is how it is supposed to be since this world is a cruel place. Now just because I said that does not mean I support this in fact I feel saddened by this for all the families that might have been destroyed but that is how the world works.

  

" Decisions Determine Destiny"

"Decisions Determine Destiny"

Attribute: A attribute in this quote is decisions.

Reflection: The attribute in this quote being decisions is talking about how in your whole live the decisions you make will affect how your life will play out. The quote is talking about how are destiny is not predetermined. It says that only the decisions we make in our day to day life determine our destiny.An example of this is say a person decides to not graduate from high school that person will most likely live a life a poverty were he or she struggles to pay her bills. Now lets say another person decides to stay in high school and further there education now that person has a much higher chance to live a good life where he can do things other people can.

This relates to our 100+ Life Planning Goals because with these goals we now know what were are striving for.

Caring

Caring

Caring: Displaying kindness and concern for others. The work or practice of looking after those unable to care for themselves, especially sick and elderly people.

Quote: " Never believe that a few caring people can't change the world. For, indeed, that's all who ever have." -Margaret Mead 

Reflection: This quote is saying that the few caring people who do exist in this world have changed it more than other people. It is also saying that do not believe that a few caring people can not change the world for they already have.An example of this quote is Martian Luther King Jr. who changed the way whites view African Americans in turn earning the end of segregation. 

Boldness

Boldness 

Boldness: Not hesitating or fearful in the face of actual or possible danger or rebuff; courageous and daring.

Quote: "The doors will be open to those who are bold enough to knock" 

Reflection: This quote is saying that any and all door will open for you if you have the courage to knock and open the door. What this quote is saying is that the doors to a better future or a career can be opened only if you are bold enough to just knock. An example is that if you want something be bold and do it and do not give in to your fear of not being able to accomplish your goal.

Attitude

Attitude

Attitude: A settled way of thinking or feeling about someone or something, typically one that is reflected in a person's behavior.

Quote: " It is your attitude, not your aptitude,that determines your altitude." Zig Ziglar

Reflection: This quote is saying that your attitude is what determines how high you can reach in live. This makes sense because of you have a good attitude people may be prone to like you better. An example is say my attitude gains me a friend who is really well off he may invite me to something of his choice.

Personal Development Quote

Personal Development Quote 

" A man without a goal is like a ship without a rudder." 

Thomas Carlyle 

Reflection: The only attribute I see in this quote is the man without a goal.This quote is saying that the rudder of a boat is like goals that motivate us to keep on moving. The attribute is saying that goals are important because without goals we have no type of motivation that will keep us moving forward in life. The ship in this quote is like are entire being. Without a rudder the ship can no longer move to all the directions it need to not crash. The same can be said for us that without our goals we are gonna be stuck on the same path until we finally crash and burn. This relates to are 100+ Life Planning Goals because this give a reason to create them other than being told by our teacher.

Assertiveness

Assertiveness

Assertiveness: Is the quality of being self-assured and confident without being aggressive.In the field of psychology and psychotherapy, it is a learn able skill and mode of communication.

Quote:  " Assertiveness is not what you do it's who you are!" -Shakti Gawain 

Reflection: This quote is saying that this quality in not what you do or say it is who you are at all times of the day.

Accountability

Accountability

Accountability is the fact or condition of being accountable and having responsibility.

Quote:  " It is not only what WE do, but also what We do not do for which WE are accountable."  John Baptiste Moliere 

Reflection: This quote is saying that we are accountable for everything we do or do not do because for every action there is an equal reaction. An example would be if you decide to help a person carry there groceries they would not drop any but if you do not he/she might drop and maybe lose some groceries.